When you take 100% responsibility for your life, synchronistic events start to show up and lead you to your own inner wisdom. When this happens, you have to be willing to dwell in the unknowing, uncomfortable space outside of your comfort zone.
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”
~ Brian Tracy
No one is immune to the ups and downs of life. Each and every person on this planet will experience the joys and the pains that come along with this adventure called life on Earth. No matter what your religious, political and experiential beliefs are, you will have times of confusion, overwhelm right along times of peace and security.
The difference in someone who takes 100% responsibility and one who does not is that when things are not going well, a person who is trapped in the mindset that the world owes them something, or that they have been victimized, or that they are being...
If you could change your life would you? We all say yes to this very quickly. YES OF COURSE I WOULD… so we are motivated to make some changes and then as soon as it gets hard we quit.
Real transformation – I am talking about creating a life that you are proud to live, a life that has meaning to you and the people around you, a life that has impact on the world – requires ending that cycle.
Not only do we need to feel inspired to change, get motivated to change by taking action, but then we need to develop the courage, determination and dedication to see it through.
Let’s look at an example: You are inspired to run a 5K. You think it would be fun and healthy and a great way to spend time with friends and family. You’re motivated to action by buying new running shoes at the mall, finding a couple of cute running outfits, you may even download a couch to 5K app. And then you go outside to start running. It’s hot, buggy and not fun to run alone. You...
Hello… my name is Jille Bartolome and I am a Control Freak. I have been recovered now for 18 years. I say recovered because I am no longer making myself responsible for everyone else and everything else.
What do I mean by a control freak? A control freak is someone who tries to control other people to do what they what them to do. A person who believes that because they think they know what to do it must be the best thing to do. Someone who walks around with their hands on their hips pointing at people and things. This is the person who tells you what you should do, need to do, ought to do and thinks you are stupid for not doing it. I unfortunately can relate to this more than I care to admit.
I am sad to say that this state of mind comes from fear. I will give you an example: There was a time in my life when I was very out of control. My parents were divorced, my mom was very ill, and we were living hand to mouth. I had more than one job at the age of 12. I was Literally out...
If you have ever been in one of my classes or have been a one on one client of mine, the title of this blog post may be familiar to you. That’s because I often notice that many of us tend to absolutely know what our priorities are and yet we get frustrated when we can’t pull forward into other endeavors when our priorities need our attention.
Some examples include when we have a new business that we are working on that promises to be an excellent source of our potential income, fulfillment and impact in the world. We love this business and know that it is going to require many, many hours of work to get it up and running to the point that our vision requires. And then, we get the flu, or our partner must go out of town for business leaving us with the lion share of the responsibilities of our household or we get distracted by doing our taxes. Sound familiar? I thought it might.
When these things inevitably happen we have a choice to make. We can get frustrated with our...
You are the most important element of your own life. The care and attention you give yourself is the one of the main keys to creating a profoundly happy and compelling life for yourself.
Unfortunately, for most of us, taking excellent care of ourselves becomes a challenge that may seem insurmountable. Taking care of yourself in a loving and happy way can seem like such a huge task. And yet, it is through the care that you give to yourself that your ability to achieve your bigger purpose becomes available.
Many of us, especially those of us who are in helping professions or tend to be nurturers also tend to ignore our physical space in the world, including our bodies and our homes. For most of us it is the last thing on our minds. We are typically more concerned with others needs and feelings that we tend to ignore our own needs and feelings or completely miss the fact that we have our own needs and feelings.
Let this serve as either a reminder that you are important. You must take...
Coaching is a highly effective way to move past the barriers that hold you back in your life instead of getting stuck in a pattern of hoping to succeed.
Success in life is not about hope or luck or wishes. Success in life is about breaking through the barriers that hold you back by expanding who you are so that what you do and how you do it is effective and at the same time totally you.
The coach approach can help you do just that. You no longer have to live a life waiting to succeed or holding back because of fear. You can use the coach approach to move to higher and higher levels of who you are in this world and have unequaled success in your life.
Life does not have to be hard. We are trained to think that it is. Success in business does not have to be hard. We are trained to think that it is illusive.
When you apply the coach approach to your life and business, the world becomes softer place where you achieve everything you desire and deserve.
A good coach is someone who can...